Black women/white men increase at alarming rate!
The article quoted below, is a recent post to an internet forum.
In a recent Gallup/USA Today poll, 57 percent of teenagers said they'd dated someone from another race, up from 17 percent just 20 years ago. The number of interracial marriages has more than doubled in that same period, and while blacks are still less likely to marry outside their race than other minority groups, the number of black-white marriages has almost tripled. Maybe most remarkable, because Edwards is right that the trend has favored black men, yet the number of black women marrying white men has more than quadrupled, while the number of black men with white wives only doubled. In 1998, black-white couples in which the wife is black made up 37 percent of all black-white marriages nationwide, up from only 22 percent in 1980. It's not 50-50 parity yet, but at that rate of change, we'll get there soon. Race-mixing is clearly the future.
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Interracial relationships are viewed as a positive step towards smoother race relations by some; as "sellout" behavior and a denial of racial heritage by others.
According to U.S. Census reports, interracial marriages more than doubled between 1980 and 1995. Black/White marriages increased an estimated 96% overall, with marriages between of Black women and White men increasing 171%. Blacks with other races increased a whopping 124% during the same period.
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After reading the above information, I just wanted to ask some of you, why do you think IR with BW/WM are increasing at such an alarming rate! I know you can figure out just as I did that if the number of BW/WM relationships was 37% in 1998, how can so many sites use old stats and imply/state it is only nearing 30% now? I was wondering if anyone had found conflicting stats like I did time and again. Because I would love the actual numbers. My theory (just a theory) is that the actual numbers are being obscured because if bw knew knew the actual number of bw who are actually dating and marrying wm, it would increase the stampede running for the door. Which is exactly what happened with Asian/White marriages. Since white men are truly the richest, and most powerful, men in the world, the last thing they want is for BW to have access to that wealth and power. Accoding to this particular census of 1996 the number was 37% of the number of the number black/white marriages then. (In 1996) So my question is, if the number was 37% in 1996 do you really think it's possible that it could be less than 40% in 2008? Look at the numbers again ladies THAT IS ALMOST HALF!!! AND BLACK WOMEN/WHITE MEN MARRIAGES ARE THE FASTEST GROWING INTERRACIAL UNIONS IN AMERICA!!! (Google Census 2007) I know that this information is often hidden. I know on the Internet, you will often find stats that are years old or deliberately misleading, and black women are often made to feel like WM do not want them. That could not be further from the truth. the truth is, there are more White men who want Black women than there will ever be enough Black women AVAILABLE! Simply because there are so many more WM. Remember that men want Women! and that you are a woman, and that opposites really DO attract. The dark colors and nappy hair that might repel a black man could very easily be a turn on to WM. Ladies it is your attitude that you must change. NOT YOUR LOOKS! -THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR LOOKS! ( YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! ) Just remember men will pretty much respond to you in the manner of which you respond to yourself. You must, ( as Katherine Hepburn used to say) bring yourself as if you were a basket of flowers. In other words, as if you were a gift. Because you are! I just believe that God gave EVERY WOMAN her own form of beauty. When I see Asian women I think how lovely their eyes are and that straight black hair to me is gorgeous. When I see Latin women, I always admire their "Latin flava" dark coloring and sassy attitudes. White women have that porcelain beauty going on and I often admire it, yet I don't admire any woman more than Black. I think that we are gorgeous. We come in so many shades and I think they are all lovely. We have so many different "looks" and ways, and mannerisms. I know most of us are not crazy about our hair, but I can tell you from experience, that many WM feel completely different about it than we do. I would like to open up the discussion, and ask White men "what do they like about Black women and also I would like to ask black women "What do you like about white men."
I can tell you what I like about WM without shame or hyperbole:
- I love that pale skin
- I love that straight hair (it's so dif. from mine)
- I love those blue/green eyes
- I love the long-in depth conversations about everything.
- I love the whole new perspective on things
- I love the way they so admire/appreciate "black beauty"
- Most of all I love that most have been raised to stand by their families and take care of their children ( I know I"ll catch hell for that one)
Now tell us what you like about them....
posted by Taylor-Sara @ 6:41 PM
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51 Comments:
This topic makes me giddy! Hmm what do I love abt my husband LOL. My favorite topic lol.
Okay seriously.
Yes, I do love and comb his hair into all kinds of styles sometimes-when he lets me. LOLOL
I do love that he has NO PROBLEMS with my blackness, my features nothing. He looks at me with such love! (I need to do better with appreciating him loving me. sigh)
I'm relieved that his parents are okay with me. lol and that my parents are okay with him.
okay. enough! lol One shouldn't say too many nice things about what one has. Secrecy (discretion?) has its blessings!!
Sara,
I believe also that the percentages are higher. There are way more I/R, especially between BW/WM, than what I've seen years ago. Especially in the younger groups, mid-twenties and early-thirties. I've come across older couples (oh, saw this older BW/WM couple(seventies in age), soooo cuuuute! They looked just alike...LOL) and they are still in love bearing in mind the time they most likely came together.
*******
What I love about men of the pale skin persuasion...LOL
I love the color blue, and I'm a sucker for light eyes. Especially blue and gray ones. I'd stare at them all day, he'd think I'm a freak.
I'm a sucker for a goatee or very immaculate beard. WM seem to do a mad good job with thier hairy faces...LOL
I'm don't like a hairy man, but for some reason, a hairy leg and arm man gets me. LOL (I know I'm a freak.
I love their lips. (They come in such different sizes and a nice firm lip give great kisses (although technique is individual...LOL)).
The familial thing is individual also, but I've met many WM who are very family orientated and want families themselves. I love men like this because my Grannie taught me this same mind set and I'm very attached to my hometown and family.
It's very physical and not all WM are the same. So I'd have to take them on an individual basis.
I've met some very engaging WM that were just friendly and open. Nothing overt and I think that most are respectful and treat women very well when they are in a relationship. They are creative and try.
A man that is willing to try and not feel like he's punkin' out, is alright in my book.
Dee
www.deelovestowrite.blogspot.com
I/R Romance/Fiction Writer
Hey Anon
I want you to know that I do not give a damn what you or any other BM thinks!
And a "Brotha" will never get the chance to abuse me since I rarely give brothers the time of day!!!
*GET OFF MY BLOG LOSER*
DEE
I'm going to have to come over and check out your writings -I love IR romance! good luck to you-sara
why bw-wm increase?
i think its just a logical progression seeing the relationship situation bw are experincing! if bm (her most closest male socially) are not forth coming in terms of marriage (for whatever reason), then bw would invariably turn to any who are. its simply that straight forward!
What folks fail to understand is that the barriers that were placed between bw and wm were artificial ones that resided mostly in the mind, so it was just a matter of time before these ideas were pushed over particularly when there is enough pressure acting on bw to discard with these!
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Great post, Sara!
Hmm. You've given me lots of fun stuff to think about!
What I love about hubby:
1. Contrary to the black men I knew when I was dating, my professional successes were not seen as a personal affront, something which took away from him as a man.
2. Being a man to him means being in a loving, caring, supporting relationship with a woman. He wants to work with me in making this work; working with me means communication and cooperation. He doesn't feel the need to dominate and he is not threatened by my strengths.
3. Being a man means taking care of his business: getting the education and training (when he was younger) that he needed to provide a livelihood and meet his financial obligations; having a good work ethic and being responsible about his finances today is what matters.
4. It doesn't hurt that he has the kind of look I like: tall, skinny, dark hair, goatee beard.
5. He loves me as just as I am, my brown skin, my curly hair, my looks, etc., and when we are out in public, he is proud to be seen with me, and it is quite clear that I am his lady.
A side note: recent NYT wedding announcement, bf/wm, Deneta Howland and Bryan Sells.
PioneerValleyWoman
http://episcopalienne.blogspot.com
--My husband likes to go hiking. He likes to travel and have new experiences (eating at different restaurants, different types of world music, etc.) I know not all white men are like this. But, my husband's like this.
--It "turned me on" when he made a fuss about how "beautiful" I was (and still am!) I think what he's really saying is that he likes my brown skin (among other things of course). And when we first starting dating (a pretty hot and heavy phase!!) he would say that I was a 'goddess'. ***sigh***!!! I know that our attraction was very physical at first. But, we've been together for almost 8 years. And I love how we're changing and growing together. It's just great.
What I love about white men:
~Their value systems and moral codes are much more in line with mine. I value education, relationships, family, children, planning for the future and love over what kind of car you drive, how much "bling" you have, how many "bitches" you've "fucked" and how many kids you've fathered out of wedlock, that you don't take care of.
~ We generally have the same taste in music, food, extracurricular activities. Other people than my family, I'm the only black person I know of who can ski and snowboard, I'm a fan of rock, CLASSIC country, and classical music.
~ In general, they put their families first. White men have no hesitancy in going out to "slay the dragon" for their families.
~I've always been attracted to the way they look and their various looks. I love blue, green and brown eyes and the various hair colors. The other races have alot of sameness (although I do like taller hispanic and taller asian men too).
~White men are generally well versed on a number of different subjects (sports, art, current events, important historical events, etc)and although some of them are completely ignorant about the race thing, most are willing to learn.
~They don't punctuate
every sentence with "knaw'm sayin'?" And they don't grab their cocks every 5 seconds. They also think of more than their cocks. Yes my friends, white men have the ability to think OUTSIDE of the bedroom.
I just really like everything about the white men I like. Not all of them are the same. I've never been into black men because there's no physical attraction and they don't have the intellectual bent that I value in my men.
I don't care if I catch hell for saying this. This is my truth and I am standing in it. I didn't allow the few blacks I went to school with to bully me into submission and I won't allow it here either.
I forgot one more thing: I've dated black men when I was younger and single. The few black men who were interested in me seemed so aloof and "too cool for school." I don't know if it was the "thug" thing they were going for. But, I didn't find it attractive. It was as if they new they were hot and in demand so they didn't have to try with me. These guys were very physcially attractive (muscular, handsome.) But, I did all the work. And it was so discouraging. So, when I met my husband who treated me like he wanted to court me, it just blew me away (asking me out on real dates, planning small surprises for me, listening to me and telling me what every woman wants to hear!)
Is it that these "too cool for school" guys are too proud to be romantic or vulnerable? Maybe the aloof attitude and their hyper-masculinity (obsession with muscles and that thug look) added to their refusal to "court" me? Who knows!
oh and one more thing!! I never felt like a "gold-digger" when I asked my future husband about his goals (career or otherwise.) After dating a man for several months, is it wrong to ask about their aspirations, how they see their life unfolding? A few years before he and I got married, I asked my current husband if he had credit cards, a retirement account, bank account etc. I asked him if he had student loans, etc etc. I asked him how much he made at his job! I asked if he wanted to own a home one day, etc etc. These are relevant questions! (And I gave him info on my financial situation too--which is NOT perfect!) If a man (black or white) didn't want to answer those questions, I would move on. I had an especially difficult time getting this info from the black men I dated. My husband was very forthcoming with his info. I'm not saying that all white men are like this! Just in my experience, white men are more comfortable talking about future goals and their current finances.
Why is this so one-sided? Once again bw waxing poetic about wm while wm say NOTHING. Not very encouraging.
Anonymous said...
Why is this so one-sided? Once again bw waxing poetic about wm while wm say NOTHING. Not very encouraging.
October 22, 2007 12:57 PM
Pardon me, but Sara's post called for bw to comment on what they liked about wm. Not vice versa.
Pardon me, but you should read more closely:
I would like to open up the discussion, and ask White men "what do they like about Black women and also I would like to ask black women "What do you like about white men."
Well Anon,
In all fairness this is a new blog and I have few WM (yet) I will leave it up a few days (I usually blog every other day, because I love it so much) but I will leave it for a few days and try to get their perspective on this issue.
One other thing
People sometimes we have people who are older, religeous etc. who are very offended by the profanity
I'm sure as rational, intelligent adults-we can make our point without resorting to profanity -so lets keep it clean-thank you TS
I can definitely state what I love about my husband. Father to our two beautiful children.
He is a fair-minded, brilliant, protective, proud, loving and strong man. A wonderful friend, lover, and father to his sons.
When he says he's going to do something, he always follows through. His word is everything and he can be counted on to move Heaven and Earth for his family and friends.
He's always been there when I've needed him no matter what.
Although he now considers himself an agnostic (formerly Catholic) he actually treats people in far more of an actual Christian way than many self professed Christian/"Godly" people.
And that's all that matters to me.
He knows that it's ALL about the actions. Pretty words that are not backed up by action are meaningless.
He brings out the best in me, and I do the same for him.
We're a real team and I feel blessed waking up each morning in his arms.
The rare times we do argue, everything is said and not bottled up. The problem/issue - whatever it is - is worked out, solved, and than we move on. We don't hold on to anger/sadness/bitterness, etc... Because these negative emotions will kill a relationship.
We talk it out until things are better again.
He's also not to proud to say I'm sorry.
Also, he knows that a real man should never be "too strong" or feel to "proud" to make the woman he loves KNOW she is loved.
Love begets love. And real men know this.
I could go on but that's the jest of it.
Great topic Sara!
P.S. He just turns me on physically too. Tall, handsome, accent, Square jaw, OMG the attraction...
I married the man who digs me like no other. He happens to be white and I happen not to care. Great blog Sara.
yvonne
sara: "One other thing
People sometimes we have people who are older, religeous etc. who are very offended by the profanity
I'm sure as rational, intelligent adults-we can make our point without resorting to profanity -so lets keep it clean-thank you TS"
Sara,
I put the profane words in quotes because that is the black male lingo. I typed those words but, they had a point. I wasn't using them just to use them. Sorry about that. :)
I'm happy for all you ladies
I really am, I am totally for BM finding love/happiness but it sure would be nice to hear from some men...
OK I will tell you what I love about my husband:
-His beautiful green eyes.
-His patience with me and my temper
-His ability to always resolve to make me happy
-His acceptance of everything I do
-His dedication to family
-Even though I make fun of it his soft, very pale skin and dark hair
What I like about black women?
1. I love their diversity, from mocha tan to dark chocolate.
2. Their different cultural background and the intellectual perspective they bring
3. Their willingness to stand by their man through
good and bad
4. Those lips, those curves, those... wait better stop myself!
5. That amazing contrast of dark skin off of white
anon,
I think there aren't many WM on these blogs, except for a few. I honestly believe that they'd also be afraid to offend and assume that we would question there reasons for what they like most about BW. IE: skin shade, features, body type--it's physical and you can't label "all" bw or wm in the same way. Especially after some heated arguements on the other blogs.
Still, maybe they have to "think about it" so it doesn't come of stereotypical.
What would you say if they said, "I like how "strong" bw are, or their "Attitude"" etc. Would you be offended?
I've seen on a few blogs that women didn't want to be labeled as "strong" and having an "attitude" was tantamount to be stereotyped as "ghetto". Although, "attitude" can be positive when explained along with the word. "Strong" can be made to look positive also, but still, how would the women on the blog take it? As a insult or as some WM being honest about what he loves about BW or the BW he has met or been attracted too.
This is just my thought though, so I may be wrong.
Hi Sara:
I really don't know where to begin. There really isn't anything more beautiful to me than a brown skinned, brown eyed, raven haired woman with full lips-takes my breath away just writing about it!
I can sit and stare into a BW eyes for hours, of course, they usually ask me to stop after the first 2 minutes-lol. Guess my number 5 stare is just tooo intense for most of you.
The genuiness of your laughs is something that really gets me too. I have yet to hear a BW laugh one of those "fake" laughs that smacks of insincerity. Young ones, old ones, or in-between-ones, it's always true, rich and heartwarming.
I never realized until I started reading the IR blogs, that I was supposed to value lighter shades over darker shades, well silly me, it's just too late cause I love every shade that you come in-LOL.
If you asked me to pick a shade "or else!", guess you'd just have to shoot me:-))
What I love most about white guys:
Their never ending quest for knowledge and discovery
Open-mindedness,fearlessness, natural leadership
Creativity
Understanding of balance
Ability to flirt without attaching a bunch of bull*** lines
Respect,manners, charm and strong character with a touch of honor shown to women (you get this A LOT from British guys)
Sense of humour
Well-traveled (again, you see this alot in European men)
Eyes (mostly blue)
Hair (mostly dark)
Sexual prowess (you bet!)
Sara:
I forgot to mention NOSES! I have had a thing for noses all of my life and ya'lls noses are a full on 10! And particularly the ones that are a little pug, just makes me want to go up gently tweak it on the end--but then of course there would be the screaming and yelling and the calling of the cops and then ALL of those really personal questions. Ah, could we just keep this our little secret if I promise just to look and not touch?
Ok, I better stop before Sara tells me to take a hike;-))
Hey Sara!
What do I love about white guys? That would be a very long list. I was a sucker for them since I was five years old. I always had more in common with white men than with black men. Like the other ladies have previously stated, I like their family values, valuing education/employment and broadening their perspectives by traveling and trying new things. Of course not every white guy is like this but I have found they tend to be socially groomed for these traits.
For light-skinned black women to be naturally drawn to white guys is seen as a serious sin in the bc. Because we have this sick advantage in attaining black men we should be with only black men and the darkest ones at that. I've never subscribed to this. Right now I am falling in love with the most beautiful man I have ever known. I swear at times that a higher being sent him to me. He has his flaws and I have mine. We are not perfect but we wouldn't have it any other way.
Grant said he could just stare into a black woman's eyes. I feel the same way about my beau's. He has the sexiest eyes, "bedroom" eyes you would say. They are a blue/green variety and remind me of the sea. He loves my dark brown eyes. He feels he is swimming in warm dark chocolate when he looks into them. He wears glasses and looks so cute with them on but looks downright hot when he takes them off. He has the sexiest lips; they're full and inviting like the actor Wentworth Miller. He has silky dark blond hair with a tall slight build. He wears a goatee and is not a fashion horse. He is a physicist at the university and has a relaxed sense of style.
He loves feeling the texture of my natural kinky hair. The grooves and different textures throughout my scalp thrill him. Most important of all he accepts me for who I am. He doesn't try to control or alter me to his liking. I also accept him for who he is. I was never into lying and manipulating a mate; in my previous relationships this was never reciprocated. Now I have found someone who gives that type of respect back.
Like any list of wonderful attributes, the person I end up with who is "perfect" for me forever and always may not have everything on the list... exceptions are allowed!
The first thing... I find intelligence very attractive... and in a relationship, a few dates, and in several platonic friendships, there has been a consistent "flavor" of intelligence that I find quite attractive... it's a combination of being "grounded", "wise", and "practical".
Eyes... very dark eyes are quite sexy in kind of a "how deep is the water?" kind of way, and I've also seen lighter eyes that are quite striking. I like eye contact, so this is a big plus.
Hair... to me, natural is beautiful... and a woman who is confident of her natural beauty is the sexiest. Anything from Lauryn Hill dreads to braids to twists to a fro, to... whatever. I like the endless possibilities, the art... and it's sometimes very sensual to gently play with hair... a texture thing
A lot of black women that hit the gym have VERY sexy curves in their arms... the kind of curves that it's fun to trace with a forefinger and admire the beauty of the way god put all the pieces together.
I am fairly ambitious... and it seems like within my culture I've seen a tendency to either disrespect ambition, or to exploit it. My friends that understand my dreams and ambitions the best tend to be either not white, or not American, or both.
Along with that, it seems like black women often have their lives together, their morals solid, and they don't take things for granted... and even without being Superwoman, there's a synergy in all that with my approach to life that I don't find as much when I date within my culture.
And I'm single at the moment. Working on that, of course. Are you single, too?
phoenix sun-are you still dating the guy from the park? The one that made those jerks go away I am so happy for you girl -you deserve all the happiness
D-exactly which lady are you asking your question in regards to because if its me -email me-at the above addr.
Hey Sara. Yes, I'm talking about the guy from the park back in the summer. Thank goodness I did not let those jerks let me sabotage this relationship. We are doing great. Thanks for the well wishes!
Sara, regarding the number of BW/WM couples I'm not too surprised. I wouldn't be surprised if the media in general is trying to downplay the numbers seeing as how celebrity BW/WM couples seem to get ignored.
I live in the midwest where for years the term "inter-racial relationship" was practically synonymous with a BM/WW couple. Where I live everything is a few years behind the rest of the country it seems, so while for the last year or so I've been hearing about the increase of BW/WM couples on the internet, in real life I saw no such thing. It was quite frustrating really.
But just in the last couple months I've been starting to see more and more BF/WM couples even in my neck of the woods. That's progress!
In the last couple of weeks I've probably seen even more BW/WM couples than BM/WW couples. That might just be a fluke, but still, that NEVER would have happened just a few years ago.
In regards to what I like about black women, it would be hard to narrow it down to just a few things. LOL! But if I had to narrow it down to my favorite, it would probably be skin color and facial features. I love the variety of skin complexions of black women ( I especially like darker skin). And while I like the overall facial features of black women, I especially like the sensual lips. :)
Okay. I'll stop now. :)
Why is this increase considered "alarming"? Strange choice of adjective. It makes it sound like this increase is something we should be concerned about rather than something to be celebrated. I consider it wonderful, rather than alarming.
Sandra,
you are right of course. That was the exclamation word used by the internet-and I inadvertently reused it. but yes, I do sincerely think it is great!
Hi Sara -
Been away from the blogs for a few days (I live in San Diego); just noticed your call on Halima's blog for wm to come over and talk about the attractions of bw.
- I respond to the visual beauty; bw just strike me as being very attractively female. (side note: voodoo dolls don't work ... Oluchi's husband is still alive and well)
- There is a current of feeling that infuses bw's actions and words, no matter how reserved and soft-spoken, which is very appealing to me.
- A sense of total determination to not give up or be deterred, once she sets herself to follow a certain course.
- Strong desire to support and be part of a larger group, i.e. family, community.
There are other qualities that appeal to me, like intelligence and sense of humor, but they are found in non-bw as well so I mention them only in passing
Anyway, all those things together, and things I can't begin to put words to, add up to a unique kind of woman that I strongly favor.
I don't know if I've explained it very well, but it's the best I can do.
I enjoyed reading all of the posts and enjoyed the responses from WM (especially the single ones! Me too, me too *Cough*).
I get along with most WM very well. They bring out my naturally friendly and outgoing side, probably because they tend to accept me as I am on a deep level. I work in a very alpha-male and competitive industry and the WM that I know can respect my femininity yet still treat me as a equal. I receive the most sincere compliments about my appearance from WM. I don't care whether they see my dark skin, eyes and curly hair as exotic or not, I just know that it feels damned good to get the second glance, wink or eyebrow flash from a goodlooking WM!
I love the endless combinations of hair color & texture/eye color among WM. I love their natural confidence and wit. There's often this boyish quality that I find irresistably sexy, especially when it comes packaged as a fully grown, responsible man! Maybe the world would have me believe that the combination of me and a WM is impossible, unlikely, fetishized and pathological, but to me it is natural and probably inevitable. I'm looking forward to the moment that I meet the man who will share the rest of my life.
Grant & D thank you so much for what you said, you have no idea how your insight and beautiful words saved me.
I find myself feeling so betrayed when ever I think about the concept of love, and trying hard not to resolve myself to thinking all is lost for me...but still I try.
It's amazing how it seems the two of you have hit right on the head what makes the black woman unique, beautiful and a most importantly A VALID CHOICE of partner.
More and more, I realize that sentiment that a human being reveals more in action then their words can ever say about who they are, and if a man-A REAL MAN-truly wants a woman by his side, what better choice then the Black Eve who can find a way to love, care, forgive and endear despite time, cruelty, betrayal and fate.
I know now that we black women-WE KNOW WHAT IT TAKES-our eyes open to early to the reality of our worlds, and though it seems the same strength the protects us may also be our greatess weakness.
(Meaning the ability for injustice to be constantly practiced on us, but all right in the end because we are strong)
Despite it all, our eyes remain open, our backs remain strong, our arms and hands ready, and OUR HEARTS REMAIN OPEN AND WAITING.
Hey Sara:
This is a little off topic, but I want to say that about the hair, it ain't no deal breaker!! I don't care much for makeup and I love running my fingers through a woman's hair, so let it go natural.
And remember, those of us who are smart know that BW's hair is an extension of who she is and since the hair is part of the package, it gets loved too.
To A Black Woman Beautiful
After You Walked Your Fine Self
Past Me That First Time
My Thoughts Of You Began To Rhyme
Then After You Floated
That Graceful Body By Me Again
I Found My Being In A Spin
For Beauty I Can See
With You Right In Front In Me
With Complexion Just Right
And I Love Your Weight And Height
And When I Took My Looks At Thee
Awesome Powers Of Youth Arose In Me
And I Imagined A Softly Glowing Moon Light
Under Which I'd Touch
Thy Beauty In The Night
And In My Arms You Would Be
Quenching My Thirst In Thy Heaven I See
Breast To Chest, Hands To Back, Mouth To Ear
Soft Whispers: 0, Dear! Oo, Dear!! Ooo, Dear!!!
Though In Erotica I am Smitten With Thy Beauty
Still, I am Not Profane, My Thoughts
Of Thee Have Higher Duty
Thus, I Feel The Need In This Urge Of Mine
To Speak Also Of Things Divine
For There Is A God Who Does Abide
And I Can Prove It With You By My Side
The Creator Architect He Seems
Of Your Soft Dimensions and Gorgeous Seams
And Perfect Guidance He Must Be
For Your Beauty He Perfectly Guided Me To See
And To Him I Give Gratitude
That You Inspire This Poetic Mood
And If You Like These Words Just Some
For You, There Are Plenty More Where They Came From
For In These Words From My Heart
You Are A Living Work Of Art
And By Way Of Slang May I Add
BLACK WOMAN, YOU ARE REALLY BADDD!!!
By Solomon’s Rhyme Works, Inc
Anon,
That was tight!
Dee
Thank you.I was the Anonymous who posted that poem..It's the way i feel about beautiful black women.
: )
What I Like About White Men:
1. I am a sucker for green eyes or blue eyes and dark brown curly hair. I love brunette white men most, because of the light eyes / dark hair contrast.
2. The sexy, thick Midwestern type is really hot to me. Tall and thick.. . and feels like a real man when you’re in his arms. Whew!
3. I absolutely love the value system of many white men: family, education and intellect, transparency, and career/personal finance. Those traits reflect what I value, so I feel like I have more in common with the white men I meet than with black men. I love that they are willing to step up and take on the provider/head role of the family role instead of chasing women, barely keeping a job, and abandoning their children. I need to feel like I have the freedom to be a woman, HIS woman, and a princess, so those traits alone are a major, major turn on.
4. If they have pink full lips that’s an even greater plus.
5. I like that they have less superficial standards of black beauty than black men. Sometimes, I just want sit back relax and be real. It’s great to be appreciated for who you are.
6. I love adding a different perspective and voice to my life. It’s nice to be able to experience more intimately than just the “black” experience and perspective.
7. I love the message that being with a white man sends to American society: that black women can be princesses too just like any other race of women in America and be cherished by ALL races men.
8. I love the thought of a blended multiracial family. Taste the rainbow and I’m not talking about skittles my dear.
9. It feels like home being that I grew up in a multiracial community, and feel out of touch with my reality when I am segregated from other cultures.
10. I love their curiosity about the world. They are more willing to be down for trips overseas to places like Venice and Greece.
11. The conversation is awesome. The white men who have pursued me have almost always been my friends first. That means we get to chat and get know each other instead of instant fast forward to a date and an attempt to get sex as soon as possible (like black men do).
All that said. Some of them are just so much more like the total package, and a refreshing change from the conveyor belt of sorry, delusional black men that try to approach me without anything to offer.
God bless my sisters who find real, go-the-distance love. Don’t miss out if that opportunity just happens come outside of your race!
Kay
My girlfriend and I were just talking about what she calls the "interracial propaganda" I send her. We both noted that, unfortunately, we don't see a lot of WM/BF couples. We both had small interracial crushes that went back as far as grade school.
I hope what you are reporting is right, but I certainly wish that the reality my girlfriends and myself saw supported your message.
I can say, however, that when I travel for work I seem to encounter men outside my race who flirt and so on. At home, that same type of attention is nil, so I'm not exactly exited about the dating prospects within my state.
Either way, I am definitely watching the atmosphere to see more evidence that American men are opening up to dating and marrying black women.
Kay
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I LOVE white men who OPENLY date black women! White men who OPENLY date black women tend to be very much their own man. They possess a self-confidence, independence of thought, and quiet strength. These are the kind of men who know what they want, go after it and don't apologize for it. These characteristics also translate into other areas of their life. They tend to be more balanced and successful financially, emotionally, and spiritually. This is why I find those men extremely sexy!
That poem was so nice and passionate!! Thank you for posting it.
You're welcome,Shirl..I have some other poems about black women..If you ladies would like to read them.
just let me know..
Hello and greetings to all. I am a 38 year old male.
What do I like about Black women..?? Genuiness, morality, justness and sincerity.
I understand the structure and precision required to work within the corporate world. The african american women I've known have each had a unique ability to just smooth away a very stressful workday and infuse a special spectrum of "color" back into my own soul. Similar to that of what an exquisite, masterful interior decorator can do to undecorated living room walls.
Peace to all.
Why is there no picture of Jason Lewis on here, from Sex & the City..a hottie blond who loves women of color..and also did a movie with Aisha Tyler where she was his reluctant love interest..small town etc..
Here is my list to share with someone
Physical Attributes;
1. 6'0-6-3 and has has to be comfortable with me in my very high heels, I stand at 6'1
2. Blond hair or dark blond hair
3. Piercing blue or green eyes, why..they are opposite mine and he will love my big brown eyes
4. Great hands, not necessarily manicured but they are groomed and have that special shape that only mother nature provides. This is not exclusive to white men but it iis the crieria in the one I want.
4. Great voice that is evident that he is well read and has traveled some, it is rich and pregnant with his experience and passion. Which leads to the 5th
5. Passion has to be radiating from him when he walks into the room
6. Celebrity to best sum him up. Jason Lewis, Jason Chambers
7. Active, no six pack is needed, but is ready to go on hikes ( it is a new interest to me) I do love the gym and played basketball in college, so I am pretty active.
8. Age is not too irrelevant, if he is post 35, which I have never really dated,,then don't look post 45. 27-42. why 42 I don't know..my step dad turns 50 next year and my mom is 55.
Interests
1. Well read, I love to read I read the WSJ, NY Times, every day. I also read Jossip, Bossip, TheYBF, and Perez Hilton. So it is important that my man understands my complexity and even if he does not know that Kimora was once married to Blood Diamond Russ he should relish that I do and find it intersting
2. Sports fan has to love sports, I am not a football fan but I have no problems letting him watch the Monday night football. Basketball and Tennis are my sports so he shares those interests are allows me to. Sports are great and I am of that generation where sports is somethng that you and your man can share
3. Business, I love business and have a goal to go to Business school part time. He is either in the Investment Banking business or is intimate in the knowledge of that business, wether he is a corporate lawyer, retired banker, or works in the Executive office of corporation
4. I want his interests to lie in things that I don't know anything about but he has the patience and desire to teach me. Art, Boating, (sking...dont' know yet have a fear of falling)
5. Family( i guess this counts as interests) he has to be interested in wanting to start or expand on what he has. Nothng is more sexier than a man with a child. I dont have any and would like some
6. TRAVEL, I use to be a stewardess for only 3 yrs and loved it..this time around want to travel with someone who has experienced the finer parts of luxury travel well versed in different countries that he suggests we take ever so often..I have a passport and I am ready to go..
Emotional State
1. Emotionally available to start a family and be in a realtionship
2. Willing to open his heart and not fear to let me in.
3. Has a great love that he lost or let get away. I have been there and do understand and know that such an experience allows you to want to love again
4. Funny, Loves to laugh at any and everything...I have a wicked and witty sense of humor so I know I will make him laugh...I have never failed to make a man laugh it is part of my charm
5. Giver, loves to please his woman and emotinally stable to allow her to be herself career and spiritually. Which brings me to # 6
6. Love church..I love church and a man who loves the Lord and has the lord apart of his life will have the emotional stability to provide the home and family live that I have listed in 1-5
7. Emotionally secure in who he is, that he is able to allow me to puruse my educational and career goals and not be threatend when I exceed them
8. Always strong enough to tell me the truth, even if i have put on a few...and willing to hear the truth when I say he has put on a few.
Well I've got to pitch in with my two pence worth. I think black women are just about the most beautiful women on the face of this earth. The hair, the curves, that amazing looking skin. I've been together with my black girlfriend for almost 4 years now and if we ever split up (heaven forbid) I really couldn't see myself ever going back to white women. Not that there aren't some very pretty white women in the world, but I think the pedestal they are placed on by a predominantly white western society is unjustified. In my opinion a knockout beautiful black woman wins over a white woman hands down every time. Black women have so much to be proud of despite everything that's been thrown at them over the past few hundred years, yet still they come out with dignity and are achieving lifewise in record numbers. It's long overdue that they should be recognised and rewarded with the love and attention they deserve from all men and not just the whiteys like me.
Thankyou so much for post this website. I have been very upset lately when my family has been pressuring me to break up with my white boyfriend. The website made me feel alot more confident about our relatioship. The comment somebody made about playing with their boyfriend hair made me laugh because I put a ton of cornrolls in my bf's hair! Being bi racial myself has made dating very diffcult but all you wonderfull commects have just made my day!
Let me start by saying that I respect all races.
And miscegenists are destroying them.
There's a bigger picture here that I think many are not getting. It doesn't matter what color your skin is if you're in love. Why does a bw with a wm have to mean she's a sell out? or for that matter, why does it matter if a bm is with a ww? Those of you who listed values as one of the things they loved about wm, that has nothing to do with his skin color. I know plenty of family oriented, hardworking, strong black men, my father included. And I also know of plenty of dead beat, substance abusing, lazy white men. If white is your preference, then by all means, go for it. Everyone deserves to find love, but remember that skin color is only skin color. It is not in any way shape or form related to values, morals or any junk like that.
What a great blog! Your blog and the comments have given me some validation too! I'm a WM who has dated and lived with his BW "dream girl" since mid 2005. We just got married on Labor Day weekend of 2008 and we're very happy together!
We wanted to do something online in support of interracial relationships, so we started a website last month... www.mixedcouples.info
It's a new forum where you can post your thoughts about interracial relationships for free.
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