Answer, reeling in a visual man... (part 2)

The reason she gave the right answer is because it is clear that Paul was a visual. Visual men use lots of visual references and are all about what they "see" not that they are any more shallow than any other man, just that what is before their eyes is extremely important to them. This is why he took the "scenic route" and why he had to see that sunset.This is also why he kept talking about how things looked. Some men are visual to an enormous degree, and some are just more visual than auditory or kinestetic (hearing, or feeling oriented). so when she answered "I would love to SEE you too " she was speaking "his language" she was establishing rapport with him. This is the man to go all out for in terms of make up clothes, and hair. Always be spotlessly clean for this man, dirt will repel them faster than anything. If you are lackluster about a clean home, clean hair, clean car etc, this is not the man for you! If you will just listen to a man talk, he WILL TELL YOU HIS LOVE LANGUAGE! JUST LISTEN:
If you say "what do you like about this house?' (JUST LISTEN) the visual man will say something like " it looks right to me "or " it just looks like us"or can't you just SEE us living here? If you listen close-his pattern will emerge. The more visual he is the faster it will emerge. I once met a guy who I knew upon meeting was a very strong visual because upon meeting him. he looked me up and down several times. (strong hint) I dressed very casually at work, and wore no make up, basically because it was a small building, and I did not want to be bothered by the men there. He basically paid me no attention, which was fine because I was not interested in him either. One day a friend at work begged me into going with all of them to the movies that Saturday. Since it had been along time since I dressed up, I decided to dress up for a change. I wore a shape hugging green dress and washed and curled my hair and applied a little make up. Everyone was shocked, and kept telling me how pretty I looked, but the most shocked of all was Jermaine (the guy) He could not take his eyes off of me to watch the movie! He told me he had no idea I was such a beautiful woman! He kept glancing and smiling and following me like a puppy. He literally begged me for a date, and I was not interested! It became very awkward at work, and I regretted going to the movie. My point is ladies; be careful how good you look when it comes to visual men. It can backfire on you! -back to the answers

The conversation was strained because she was talking about "feelings" to a visual man. this is a sure turn off. Visual men do not like to talk about feelings!
They regard feelings as a private matter and always feel they must present a strong FACE to the world. He will definitely resent a lot of feeling talk, and any woman who doe's not heed this advice will rapidly find this is her first and last date with this particular man. The visual man fairly screams his love language silently when he raves over your dress or can't keep his eyes off of you because you lost 5lbs. This is a man who Will spend an extra 25.000 on a house because of the view! This is also the man, likely to tell you on your 20th wedding anniversary " I knew you were the one when you looked at me with those big beautiful brown eyes"..... Yes he does have feelings, he just does not like to have them broadcast, as he does not want to LOOK WEAK, OR UNMANLY. For a visual man everything is predicated on the pictures in his mind. The pictures of himself and of you. He has to SEE YOU as the one.....

he is the type to hold things in, you will rarely see him cry no matter how much he hurts, and even then, it will be very limited. You have to think "Seeing" to get into his head. You will see by his body language how uncomfortable he will be when you talk "feelings" Instead of saying "I love making people happy" what she should have said was "You should see the look on their face when they get flowers!" or something like that. He would have easily related. If he is a strong visual and you are talking about feelings, he will be thinking "we have nothing in common, why did I ask her out?"
I once helped a friend who was trying to "land" a visual guy. She could not figure out what to wear to a party in his honor. 2 other women in the running for him would be there, and I knew they would come looking as sexy-sleazy as they could get away with trying to catch his "eye". I also knew she could easily beat them at this game by dressing like a female version of him. I knew he would be wearing expensive, tasteful clothes and a tailored overcoat (based on what I'd seen him wear in the past) so I had her dress much like this and had her burrow a long wool coat in his favorite shade of brown. The effect was classy-elegance, exactly the "look" I knew he would have. When he saw her, he forgot the other 2 women, who were doing everything but a lap dance, to catch his eye. He absolutely loved her "look" and her outfit and talked to her all night. With a little further coaching from me, she easily caught him....

(next question)
He calmed down and started to notice her when she acted like him because she paced and led him. That means she emulated his actions (agreement and rapport) and then simply reflected them back so that he could See for himself how silly they were. At that point -he was "led" to change. He became attracted to her because she established rapport with him(by mirroring him) and then began to use his love language.

The personality of the visual man:
the visual man often looks to the upper right when thinking of the past and the upper left when thinking of the future.(watch him close-your man may have it reversed) If you ask him "would you like to have chicken tonight?" and you see him look up and to the right, you can ask" thinking of how good the chicken was last time?" he'll think you are reading his mind, he will be amazed

2 things that turn visuals off are 1. constant loud noise
2. excessively loud music
He will hate to have his feeling spread all over and will clam up alot when angry. You will notice when driving the visual man will check the rear mirror constantly and carefully watch the other drivers on the road.He always wants to SEE what is going on. He is very organized and neat. Rarely can he hide how he feels because the visual man's face is very expressive. He smiles easily and has a hard time making a poker face. He will constantly make pictures in his mind as you speak to him. He will probably love porn as it is very visually erotic. He will have as beautiful a home as he can afford, and dress extremely well.
He will absolutely adore role playing during sex, and will probably play any part you want him to "play" Always make a visual man wait as long as possible for sex because he will be picturing it long before it occurs, and the longer he waits the "bigger, and more pleasurable the picture" gets for him. (As far as I'm concerned, ALL men should wait a long time for sex) Even his job may be visually- related and he will love to do visually-related things in his down time. ie, movies, tv, sporting events, reading etc. All you have to do is watch and listen and he will give you the clues to draw him near....

Why should you take the time to learn this? Because men are extremely vulnerable to women who understands them. If you understand him, you can "play him like a fiddle" and lead him where you want him to go. (caution: use this info carefully-you may not be able to get rid of him)

Of course there is a lot more to making him fall in love with you but this will def. draw him into your lair and so you can prepare to reel him in....
Tune in next time, we will learn about the Auditory Man.....