Toxic people- how do you deal.....

You know we all have to deal with people whose only mission in life seems to be to start 'something'. I know yall know what I am talking about. Some people live and breathe to start 'something' they are not happy unless they are causing chaos in somebody's life. Unfortunately in the AA community, this seems to be par for the course. Too many people male, and female have a crabs in the barrel mentality. I am convinced this is why we as a people are not much further along. Too many in the BC are so busy trying to hold the next person back they have no energy with which to ameliorate their own pathetic lives. There are just too many folks who specialize in acrimony, maligning, and maliciousness. And far too many people who will take something insignificant and turn it into a major crisis. People with this preoccupation are usually big losers for one very significant reason. You cannot be great by majoring in the minors! In other words, if your already small mind is focused on how you can bring turmoil, dissension and discord to someone else, not only will it be visited upon you, but you will have little reasoning power left, with which to effect betterment and enhanced conditions in your own life, and that of your progeny.
The thing that is most palpable about these people is that they usually have such small insignificant lives, you almost have to pity them. I truly believe that the source of power for the Japanese and many other Nationalities, is their ability to unite and form active coalitions, for the betterment of their entire race./group I have never understood why so many AA feel the opposing need to tear each other down instead of working together for the benefit of all. This has long been our greatest weakness, and anyone with half an eye can see it. I truly believe that if the average AA were given the chance to go for a million dollars, or stop his fellow comrade from getting a million dollars, I believe most would actually lose their million trying to stop their 'fellow man' from getting their own million. Truly we are a covetous, envious, and mean spirited people.

case in point: A girl at work told me that she was in Mc donalds, and she looked in a woman's direction (BW) and this ignorant sista went berserk and offered her out, because 'she did not appreciate being stared at' This is just foolishness! What kind of loser wants to fight because someone glances at them! Then when she refused to fight her, the woman stuck her finger in her face and called her everything but a child of God. All because someone looked in her direction! Black people, as long as we are focused on malice and avarice, and malignity we shall reap what we sow.
ten fold.
case in point 2. My cousin is an extremely beautiful girl who very much resembles Beounce.(sp?)She cannot go anywhere without females trying to fight her, jump her, or spread malicious rumors about her. She also has trouble with DBRBM, because she will not give her number or be bothered with them in any respect. This has caused countless confrontations and problems for her to the point that she sometimes just 'hides' in the house, because BP are angry at her for being extremely attractive. How ridiculous is that?
case in point 3. Recently some people had a problem with having their picture on my blog. (unbeknownst to me) instead of simply dropping me a 30 second email and asking me to take it down, they decided to try to cause all manner of problems by bitching and moaning all over the net to everyone except me. In a malicious, infantile, and silly attempt to cause me as many problems as they possibly could. (Even though everybody knows unless you have a copywright, all material submitted to the internet becomes part of the public venue) Still, a 30 second email would have had it down that same day! This is what I mean about small minded, toxic people. I would love to hear your suggestions of how you deal with them. I always try to avoid the small minded, because I know their accomplishments (or lack thereof ) will prove them for what they really are. This is exactly why we are not further along in so many areas, Too many in the BC are so busy trying to undermine, demonize and cause undue problems for our fellow comrade, they find their own lives in shambles (most certainly deserved).
My late grandmother always said 'Pray for the small minded-usually their lives are equitable to their spirits' My advice to everyone dealing with people of this sort is to avoid, ignore, and be better than them. But I would very much like to hear how you all handle situations/people of this magnitude.