How Black women are kept in the box....

The following: is one of the many ways black women are quilted to stay in the box. I want you all to recognize the voice of manipulation and deceit. This is written by a black man intended to make black women feel phony, fake and guilty for wanting more.... Once again the message is no matter what a real black woman stands by a black man. Ladies my only question to you is -How come the message coming from the BC is never stand by a sista? How come when black men are defiling, disrespecting and denigrating their own women and communities, there is no outrage? Why does the BC seem to be in a state of upset and distress now that sistas are stepping outside the box, yet for years they remained passive and quiet as sistas were beaten, used, abused and then replaced by another victim at the hands of DBRBM. Can you hear the fear in this man's voice? Yet how come he is not calling for black men to change their horrible ways? Why are black women once again being blamed for finally beginning to wake up -and abandon ship? Listen to this message......

This is what he said.....
WARNING the information in this post may not be suitable for all readers.Reader discretions are advised. The Blackwoman will date, and as reported daily, will marry a white man. She finds in her relationship with the white man perhaps the answer to all her dreams and fantasies.First, he is removed from the black experience, and brings a new set of rules to the involvement. Second, he represents the culmination of every movie and T.V. show she has ever seen featuring a gallant white beau who knows how to treat a woman and swoops in always coming to her rescue. Third, he is an alternative set of men whom sheBelieves can be utilized because of the non availability of Black men. Now that there appears to be fewer Blackmen, and she can’t get along with any of them, she is perusing other races to see what she can see. When the Blackwoman gets with a white man she may manufacture a complete new set of vowels which she uses to construct her new light and airy “proper” voice. She irresistibly become ever so amused by his jokes and pretends to like the things he does.She becomes an actress of sorts and she relaxes a bit because the white man does not know the full story of her failure with the Blackman. Since the white man does not know the ins and outs of Black intimacy he is more tolerant of her and they both enjoy the novelty. She can wear as much make-up as she desires and to the white man this is normal. While the Blackwoman is known to ignore a Blackman on a street corner, in an elevator or on the subway, she seems always ready with an eager appealing smile when a white man, especially one in a suit and tie, tries to make light conversation with her. She appears to be flattered and falls into crisp bright personality. Her smile is sometimes so instant it looks like a flash of sparkling white snow, blushing and appreciative.If she decides to date him, later on, she is seen to be overly affectionate in public. ThereMay be hugging, provocative kissing or fondling in public.She is willing to ignore many of the white man’s shortcomings regarding wardrobe, language, music, car, or job. She convinces herself that he is normal and she must accept him as he is, and above all he is just another man. When she is with him she thinks she is finally free.Free of the Blackman’s hassles and free of her own history. She is proud of the him in front of her family and friends or on the other extreme; she knows that her social integration relationship will not be accepted, so she keeps it a secret. He is considered special to her and automatically “knows how to treat a woman.”Certainly better than a Blackman does-she thinks. CONCLUSIONThe Blackwoman believes that she has reached the ultimate pinnacle of personal developmental achievement when she arrives at the point of seriously considering dating a white man and if watched closely she can be seen acting out the mannerisms of white women. She has absolutely forgiven the white man for enslaving her people, and the white man has forgiven himself for enslaving Black people. But the poor Black woman has not forgiven herself for being a slave.

So now black women who date out are not only sell outs, but we are fake, phony and unauthentic sistas who are putting on an act if we are happy with a white man. Or worse, we are trying to be white women? This is hilarious to me because I have seen so many brothas put on an act with a white woman, yet I have never seen another BM call him on it.
I have had BM walk past me giggling with a WW on their arm, who would become far more affectionate when I walk past, like it would just kill me to see it. I always smile because I just don't give a damn. Why would I? I don't even know these people, but if they are happy -hey more power to them... I think everyone should have someone to love. It is as simple as that, and I do not begrudge BM that same ideology at all. I simply want it for black women as well...the BC has routinely given BM a pass for dating out time and again. In fact, I have heard it insinuated a number of times that if BW had their sh*t together BM would not be dating out wholesale. See once again, A BM's actions, inaction's, problems and decisions are OUR fault! Everything that seems to take place in the BC seems to be OUR fault. Now BM are being shiftless, lazy, irresponsible, and even dangerous (many are criminals or on the DL ) yet WE ARE STILL SUPPOSED TO BE IN THEIR CORNER! -THIS IS THE BULLSHIT WE WOMEN PUT UP WITH EVERY DAY! For this man to imply that a 'real sista' would not want a white man is just absurdity to me. This is just concealed manipulation. Every woman should be looking for the best husband/father she can find, so that she can happily procreate and have love and security in her life, and the lives of her children. If you find sistas who say they do not want this, either they are gay, or they are lying. Many women are so embarrassed about the alleged 70% single rate, that many sistas are now saying they don't want marriage! Ladies this in not the way to handle embarrassment because as the bible says 'heaven and hell is in the power of the tongue' You must guard what comes out of your mouth, because it has the power to draw what you say into your life. If someone asks you why you are not married, simply say "I haven't met the right one yet, but he's on his way." As black women the best thing we can do is learn to be approachable. This is what the Asian women have on you, not beauty. You all are just as beautiful as any other woman out there, but you are not as approachable. So many, many men would love to be with a sista, do not let this man or any man make you feel guilty or fake for not waiting for a brother. Always think of yourself-put yourself first! You deserve a good, loving , kind and generous man regardless of his color.
Please disregard these manipulative messages that the BC constantly tries to reinforce. When you come home and have someone rubbing your shoulders, or taking you out for a nice dinner because you're too tired to cook, you won't give a damn about his color. When you can tell your child, daddy will go to school with you for father's day, and your friends have no one to take their children-you won't give a damn about his color. When you have a warm, comfortable home, and your friends are struggling and worried constantly about making their rent (all alone), you won't give a damn about his color. Do not let the BC steal your joy. You have a right to be happy. You have a right to have a good man and loving marriage. You have a right to want more.... That is NOT acting WHITE- THAT IS ACTING LIKE A WOMAN WITH GOOD SENSE!!!